1. He or she can’t accept the order in the school

The school is a very complicated place especially for young children (1st to 3th grade). When going to school your child has to enter in certain social limits that are still too unclear for her. The differences between family and school atmosphere is rather big which can create confusion for the little one. For example the kid is always considered as smart and unique by his parents which is not the case in the school where all children are equal. That’s why some kids have difficulties adapting in the new environment. The conflict between home treatment and the one in school is a possible explanation of the fact that your child doesn’t want to go to school. 

What are you possible doing wrong?
It’s not really constructive if you try to convince your child in her geniality. Even if she is in fact impressively smart it would be better to let the other (unbiased) people make this conclusion. Thus, the child will become more confident as the compliments she receives are coming from other people than her relatives.
Furthermore, don’t let your child to become the master of the house (meaning to give unconditional orders) because it’s going to be really difficult for her to get used to the new order in school later.     
How to improve this situation:
The best thing to do is to speak frankly with your kid. Try to explain that he or she is has to follow the order in school and that this doesn’t mean that he or she has no right to have a different opinion or even to be angry. The main thing is to make them understand that in life everyone has its own place and has to respect the place and the will of the others.
Try to give your child more clear role and responsibilities at home. It will be perfect to give your child a given task every day so she get used to respect the order.
Try not to punish but to explain when there is a problem in her or his behaviour.  
Another thing that you could do is to create a stable environment in the house. Different times for dinner, TV watching, family chat etc may confuse the child and make it even harder to accept the well-organized schedule at school.  Try to have an organised day and to make a clear place for your child in it.

2. The material is too complicated which creates a feeling of inferiority
This is a common problem for many kids all around the world. They go to school and soon realise that the other children are more advanced than they are. This can become problematic as the confusion enables the kids to progress. Thus, dumber they are feeling, harder it becomes to advance. As they are ashamed to confess the difficulty they start to behave bizarrely. This whole circle becomes the reason the child refuses to go to school. For her this is some kind of escape from the difficulty. 

What are you possibly doing wrong?
If the child has such a problem in school this means that she is not completely prepared for the material that is studied. This can result of the fact that the child is for example coming from another country, town or even school that has different program (most likely easier). As the kid sees that his knowledge is not enough he becomes to think that the blame is in him which isn’t true. So, before transferring your infant in another school institution you have to be sure that the program they are working on is not more difficult than the one your child has already used to.

It’s important that you treat your child as normally smart and not as some kind of genius. Although you may think that your kid is smarter than the other you won’t do him a favour if you make him believe that (even if it’s true!). if that happens the child will start to consider himself as superior than the rest of the kids at school which will create many problems. First of all he or she will have difficulties making friendships (after all no one wants to be friend with people who think that they are better than the others). The lack of friends is another possible reason why your child may refuse to go to school. Second, if your child doesn’t become the best pupil at school she will be very confused – how is it possible for such a smart kid not to be on the top of the class!! After while the child will become troubled  by all those factors and will prefer to stay home where she is treated like a little genius.
How to improve this situation:

Spend extra time with your child helping her with the homework or other educational activities (see section ...). Try to help your infant become more confident in its potentials by explaining the things he or she finds particularly difficult. Talk to the teachers and try to find out which are the classes that are most difficult for your kid. 

 When he or she has a good grade, explain them that this is due to the fact that they have worked hard and not to the fact that he or she is exceptionally smart and talented. Thus your child will be motivated to work hard in the future and won’t believe that success comes natural because of her unlimited potential.

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Author: Kidity.com